The Irony Of Life

Everyday our existence is altered as we go through experiences that shake our very core. We celebrate the happy moments. We grieve over hardships. But what happens when grief and happiness coincides? What happens when one life begins while another ends? How do we deal with it? How do we stop the pain?

A friend of mine (PM) proposed (and got a yes!) just last sunday. I remember thinking how lucky they were to be so in love and so happy. I was texting with them, congratulating them and though i couldn't see them, i felt their overflowing joy. I was even saying that we should all go out and celebrate because we haven't seen each other for ages. It was a good day not only for them but also for those who heard about the engagement.

But yesterday morning (tues morning), lhb got a message from another friend asking for PM's number. At first i thought he was going to congratulate them. But then the messages started pouring in. PM's dad passed away. And we couldn't believe it. Losing a parent can put a person in the lowest of lows. And everytime a close friend of mine does, i still end up not knowing what to say. How do you tell someone that it will be ok but the pain never really goes away? How do you tell someone that despite the pain, he/she must attend to all the paper work just so the bank accounts won't be frozen, etc? I want to help but i know the best that i can do is be there.

At the wake last night, another friend told me that she actually just visited a friend who gave birth. Also a few of our friends just found out about the engagement last night. And of course we all couldn't congratulate PM and his fiance and simply be happy about it. How does one react? It's not a great feeling at all. It's so ironic how something so wonderful can turn out tragic.

I pray for the soul of PM's dad. May he rest in peace. And may PM's family continue to have strength for themselves as well as for each other.


*today i am thankful for life. I am thankful for strength. I am also thankful for the mistakes that make us realize our wrong decisions.